As pre-marital/marriage counselors, we often have conversations with couples about the concept of being unified. Mark 10:6-8 reads, “6 But from the beginning of the creation, God made them male and female. 7 For this reason, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, 8 and the two shall become one flesh; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. ONE flesh! Even though this scripture is read and discussed in counseling and read again at the wedding, many couples don’t want to embrace this facet of marriage.
Unity is defined as the state of being united or joined as a whole, which is a foundation of marriage. We operate with separate accounts, access, and mindsets that are far away from God’ plan and it is causing major turmoil in our society. What has society done to change our minds about marriage? What have we as individuals done to allow this infiltration of selfishness, so much so that we ignore His plan for marriage?
God wants a husband (male) and wife (female) to grow together in Him, fulling His plan for a unified marriage. Are you willing to have a marriage that God would be pleased with? Let’s have UNITY in our marriages starting today!
A segment from my book, My Reality Revealed
The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?
Psalm 27:1 KJV
An acronym for fear that has stuck with me through the years is False Evidence Appearing Real. I can’t tell you who coined it or when they did, but I can tell you that the false evidence that you’ve been looking at must be confronted. What made you fearful and afraid? Is it because you were comparing your life to others? Were you attempting to keep up with the high rollers, only portraying a role that wasn’t your truth? Do you believe in yourself?
Lack of self-worth or esteem has crippled many people; instilling fear to move forward in purpose. I dealt with not feeling thin enough, cute enough, smart enough and even loved enough. I also dealt with the fear of not being accepted by man; limiting my vision because it wasn’t like the status quo. The truth is that fear plagued me because of secrets. I was abused, abandoned and rejected and was too damaged, afraid to trust anyone.
I learned over time that none of those feelings should apply when you understand the love that God has for you. His affection is unchanging and everlasting. He desires to be a strength for you like none other; to protect you even in times of trouble. Today, take an inventory of the thoughts and feelings that are limiting you and causing fear and let’s cast those cares to the Father, knowing that He cares for us.
Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.
Isaiah 41:10 KJV