Do you ever wonder why your relationship feels challenging, no matter what you do? This feeling was a constant for me for many years. I would attempt to engage in a meaningful relationship only to sabotage it with my own thoughts and behavior. I was reminded of the word that reads in Galatians 6:7, “A man reaps what he sows.”
What I’ve learned in life is that whatever you do to others will certainly come back to you in one form or another! First, let me share with you that I am not an expert in relationships by societal norms, but I can attest to how bad relationships can affect you. It is because of my experiences that I decided to pin this book as a reality check for someone who may think that they are slicker than the next person and has the relationship “game” on lock.
Relationships are a vital part of each of our lives, and without guidance from the Holy Spirit, we can do damage to ourselves and those connected to us. I invite you to embrace these useful keys that I have realized during my journey that will benefit you in your current or next relationship.
As a way of empowering God’s people, be on the lookout for my next book release, The Seeds I’ve Sown in June 2018.
As pre-marital/marriage counselors, we often have conversations with couples about the concept of being unified. Mark 10:6-8 reads, “6 But from the beginning of the creation, God made them male and female. 7 For this reason, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife,8 and the two shall become one flesh; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. ONE flesh! Even though this scripture is read and discussed in counseling and read again at the wedding, many couples don’t want to embrace this facet of marriage.
Unity is defined as the state of being united or joined as a whole, which is a foundation of marriage. We operate with separate accounts, access, and mindsets that are far away from God’ plan and it is causing major turmoil in our society. What has society done to change our minds about marriage? What have we as individuals done to allow this infiltration of selfishness, so much so that we ignore His plan for marriage?
God wants a husband (male) and wife (female) to grow together in Him, fulling His plan for a unified marriage. Are you willing to have a marriage that God would be pleased with? Let’s have UNITY in our marriages starting today!
The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?
Psalm 27:1 KJV
An acronym for fear that has stuck with me through the years is False Evidence Appearing Real. I can’t tell you who coined it or when they did, but I can tell you that the false evidence that you’ve been looking at must be confronted. What made you fearful and afraid? Is it because you were comparing your life to others? Were you attempting to keep up with the high rollers, only portraying a role that wasn’t your truth? Do you believe in yourself?
Lack of self-worth or esteem has crippled many people; instilling fear to move forward in purpose. I dealt with not feeling thin enough, cute enough, smart enough and even loved enough. I also dealt with the fear of not being accepted by man; limiting my vision because it wasn’t like the status quo. The truth is that fear plagued me because of secrets. I was abused, abandoned and rejected and was too damaged, afraid to trust anyone.
I learned over time that none of those feelings should apply when you understand the love that God has for you. His affection is unchanging and everlasting. He desires to be a strength for you like none other; to protect you even in times of trouble. Today, take an inventory of the thoughts and feelings that are limiting you and causing fear and let’s cast those cares to the Father, knowing that He cares for us.
Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.
Happy New Year! Of course, it’s not New Year’s Day to the world but it is to me!
Romans 12:2 reads, “Don’t become like the people of this world. Instead, change the way you think. Then you will always be able to determine what God really wants-what is good, pleasing, and perfect.'(GWT) I changed my mind! Prophet Karena Hadden Calhoun posted this on FB a few weeks and it spoke so loudly to what I was feeling, “Beware of MANY of these people coming to prophesy regarding your upcoming new year – new season. Many of you will not be in a new season just because it’s a new year. For many; your new year has already begun and for others, your new season will not begin because you have not faithfully completed your current/past season………”
How many of you are making plans for a “new” anything yet you’ve not completed what’s currently before you nor have you planned regarding what that “new” actually is? Are you one of those dreamers who thinks that just because it crossed your mind that it will manifest without action? This evenings discussion is designed to fuel a fire in you to change your mind, see the vision, write the vision and put the plan into action!
Everyone won’t understand or appreciate your newness and guess what, that’s a really good thing! BE EMPOWERED!