Are We Unified

 

 

 

 

 

As pre-marital/marriage counselors, we often have conversations with couples about the concept of being unified. Mark 10:6-8 reads, “But from the beginning of the creation, God made them male and female. For this reason, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. ONE flesh!  Even though this scripture is read and discussed in counseling and read again at the wedding, many couples don’t want to embrace this facet of marriage.

Unity is defined as the state of being united or joined as a whole, which is a foundation of marriage.  We operate with separate accounts, access, and mindsets that are far away from God’ plan and it is causing major turmoil in our society.  What has society done to change our minds about marriage?  What have we as individuals done to allow this infiltration of selfishness, so much so that we ignore His plan for marriage?

God wants a husband (male) and wife (female) to grow together in Him, fulling His plan for a unified marriage.  Are you willing to have a marriage that God would be pleased with?  Let’s have UNITY in our marriages starting today!

Valerie

Is It Worth It?

“What God has joined together, let no one put asunder”.  Do you think about your vows; your marriage and often wonder if it’s worth it.  I mean, the heartache, pain, disappointment, financial struggles – is it really worth it – going through all of this in a relationship?  You know this is a trick question – right!  Is it worth is?  Yes, it is! 

As a marriage counselor and counseled several couples through their pre-marital challenges, it made me take a look at my own marriage.  Here is was encouraging them to work through their problems and to communicate.  I gave them exercises to help them interact more productively – they did it and it worked.  I listened to their stories about things they considered to be a struggle and shed light on the minimal impact that it had on their relationship.  They shared tears, fears and all were able to see that at the end of the day, they were important enough to each other to allow God to be the center of their union and work it out.

How hypocritical of me, here I was encourage them while I was facing times in my marriage that I felt like it wasn’t worth it and wanted to give up.  I was being selfish, I can admit that now but when my husband was challenging me with truth – I constantly denied everything.  What spirit was resident within me that was causing me to push away a blessing?  I was dealing with a spirit of rejection and it was causing  havoc in my life, my marriage, my ministry and it had to stop.  That spirit had manifested itself through passive aggressive behavior, lack of confidence, fear of further rejection, guilt and even vexation.  The enemy had me captive, believing that it wasn’t worth it. 

I thank God for His power, and revealing to me the lie that had gotten my attention.  I took authority over that spirit and that mindset.  I took my confidence back, my willingness to communicate openly back – I took back all that the enemy had stolen from my marriage because It’s Worth It!

Too often, as a people we get so consumed with our trials and tribulations without taking to time to find a viable resolve.  We’ve got to stop – breath – reassess – and then move forward in God’s plan for our lives and our marriages.  If you’ve been struggling in your marriage, wondering if it’s worth is – don’t give up so quickly.  Seek God for an answer as to why and then obey the directions that He gives you to fix it.  Marriage is honorable before God, it’s a good thing and remember – It Is Worth It!

His Love Penetrates

Before I see him come through the door, I feel his presence.  I see the look in his eyes and the smile on his face – his love penetrates. 

He walks in, pauses, and gives me a nod – his head slightly tilted to the side.  His presence fills the room and he catches the attention of all.  He’s walking towards me – his love penetrates!

The touch of his hand, the warmth of his embrace, the softness of his lips, the passion in his kiss – His love penetrates!

The moments that we’re apart are challenging at times but not one second, minute, hour, day or month moves me because his love penetrates!

 Being found by the man that God ordained is such a blessing.  This Love is more than emotions – its commitment.  I’m grateful for this marriage and knowing that his love penetrates!

Love up on your man today, he will appreciate it – mines did!

 This is dedicated to my husband, Douglas E. Burwell, Jr.